Here are a few tips to boost them, if your partner is suffering from low self-esteem. Don’t forget to acknowledge their feelings
Self-esteem or the way how you feel about yourself is just one part of your emotional makeup. If you have high self-esteem, it may be difficult for you to see that your partner is suffering from low self-esteem. Though you may think this how can you make anyone feel better about themselves? You can offer support, encouragement, and model positive self-esteem. Offer support to your partner can be helpful.
Here are a few tips to boost up if your partner is suffering from low self-esteem.
1. Recognize their feelings
If your partner sounds a bit low, your natural impulse is probably to counter or deny negative things they say about themselves or the world. Do not do this but instead, be there for them as a friendly ear offering encouragement and positivity.
2. Change perspective for them
This is not an excuse to be cruel to other people but for instance, if your partner or loved one sees someone and says, “Why cannot I be that skinny or tall or continuously compares themselves”, then just point out that they are perfect as they are. And even poke some stupidity at others. Like, “Have you seen the size of that person’s feet?
3. Compliment them
Telling them what you find most attractive about them will help to boost their mood and confidence. Saying small compliments once or twice a day should be more than enough to keep them smiling and happy to see you.
Example of a good compliment:
“I always learn so much from you”
This is a great compliment because it shows that you value them beyond their physical appearance.
4. Do not walk on eggshells around them
Whilst it is important not to be too overbearing around them. If they see someone being assertive, generally feeling good about themselves and the things around them, they might start to do the same.
5. Physical contact
Physical touch between lovers has been shown to increase levels of dopamine and serotonin. These neurotransmitters are mood regulators which can help counter anxiety. When we hug someone, a hormone called Oxytocin is released in our body, which effectively reduces stress levels.
Also, a hug makes our blood pressure sink, and we experience less anxiety. So, take a stay-at-home and cuddle day with your significant other.
6. Be patient
It can sometimes be frustrating when your loved one or partner is suffering from low self-esteem. Moreover, you could quickly become irritated with them.
Please do not be!
Try to be extra patient with them and give them the time and space that they need to develop their confidence.
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7. Open up to them
Let them know that you understand what they are going through and that you are there for them. Got an example of when you lacked confidence or felt nervous?
Share it with them.
Knowing they are not alone in these feelings can help.
8. Invite them to join you in doing new things
Try out a new skill that takes some courage and a sense of adventure. This will help both of you feel more powerful and give you a sense of accomplishment. Few things will be a better bonding tool than overcoming your fears together. Whatever it is that you decide to do with your loved one just be sure to keep it positive.
In the end, you cannot force someone to be how you want them to be. So, understand that you both have growing to do in certain areas. And continue to be a helping hand for whatever issues may come up in the future.
Remember: Problems are better dealt with when you have a partner to help you through.
