Anger Management: How to stop yourself when you really don’t want to!
Highlights:
- How to stop yourself from being a Hulk?
- Anger Management : Why can’t we treat actors as humans
- How to work on it?
If you are scrolling your Instagram feed, the only thing that will pop on your screen today would be Will Smith and Chris Rock Oscar 2022 moment. The highlight of Oscars 2022 remained Will Smith slapping Comedian Chris Rock on National television. The much – talked moment left the audience in shock and left many thinking: was it scripted? Chris Rock cracked a joke on Will’s Wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, calling her G.I Jane because of her shorn head (she struggles with alopecia).
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Well, this triggered Smith and he went on to the stage and slapped him. Will Smith might have won the Best Actor Award for playing Serena William’s father in King Richard but what about his temper that made him look like a hulk?
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When it comes to angry outbursts, they are far more common than we think. But when they are associated with a Public figure, they turn out to be a big deal. Talking about India, we have seen many prominent personalities losing their temper in public and making headlines. From Salman Khan to Kangana Ranaut, public figures have lost their temper but it is also a gentle reminder for all of us that they are humans too. Just like you and me, they too feel every emotion and sometimes they just can’t control their anger.
Will Smith’s reaction pushed us to dig deeper what are the triggers that make us a beast. Why are we so angry? How anger can compromise on the best intentions? Before we look at them, let us take a look at some statistics.
The truth is – Anger can overshadow your brilliance. You can be a great sportsperson, phenomenal actor or a successful professional but if you can’t manage your anger – It could be a deal breaker for others. Anger affects your professional as well as personal relationships. When we talk about India, one of the leading examples always remains Virat Kohli. During the initial years of his career, his brilliance was overshadowed by his temper tantrums.
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Let us take a look at the statistics:
According to a study, 12 percent of people said that they have trouble controlling their own anger. The study also pointed out that people in general are getting angrier. According to a report, an average office employee suffers from “desk rage” twice a day, stating that others are taking credit for their work. Many people reported that they have ended a particular friendship or relationship due to other person’s temper issues. Anger can make you look like a monster if you are someone who is dealing with anger issues, anger management should be on your To – Do – List.
Many studies have pointed out that people in general are becoming angrier, thanks to our fast – paced lifestyle. Anger outbursts are also linked to underlying emotions such as : Frustration, Hurt, Fear or even jealousy. Anger is linked to the brain’s reward system. We constantly prepare our brain for certain results and when they differ from the expectations, people end up losing temper. There could be different triggers and it is different for everyone.
Honestly, there is a moment in everyone’s life when we are tempted to slap someone but that’s the litmus test. How do you deal with your anger in that particular moment? Because anger can compromise on the best intentions. We decided to reach out to an expert and have listed down a few tricks to manage your anger that will save you from becoming a beast.
It is Important to Control Anger Before it Controls You!
According to psychologist Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, a psychologist specialized in Anger Management believes that some people in general are “hot headed” than others. He also added that not all easily angered people throw off things, they might sulk, get physically ill, or withdraw socially.
One needs to understand the pattern before seeking help from the professional but there are a few common things that everyone can practice to calm down!
- Communication : It is important to communicate effectively. During a heated conversation, try to slow down and think before you speak. If you speak everything that comes to your mind, you might end up hurting the person. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.
- Deep Breathing : One of the most effective ways to manage your anger. Picture your breath coming up from your gut.
- Slowly repeat the word – Take it Easy, Calm Down!
- Remind yourself that being angry will not change anything and it will not make you feel okay,
- Solve the Problem : Sometimes anger outburst happens due to an unsolved problem. Culturally, the idea that every problem has a solution has been implanted in our brains. But it’s not true all the time. In that case, it is important to shift our focus on how to face that problem. This can also help in managing anger.
Remember you cannot eliminate anger, there would be times when it would be justifiable anger. Will Smith was not able to take the joke on his wife and that’s fine. A lot of times, people cross lines and we can’t control that. The only thing we can control is our – Actions and response to such situations.
