What Vulnerability can Make you Feel? How does it sound like?
“When you love someone, truly love them, you lay your heart open to them. You give them a part of yourself that you give to no one else, and you let them inside a part of you that only they can hurt. You literally hand them the razor with a map of where to cut deepest and most painfully on your heart and soul. And when they do strike, it’s crippling-like having your heart carved out.”
– Sherrilyn Kenyon
Well, this is the best of the best quotes I could find out to say what vulnerability can look like. Well, not the moment of letting oneself get involved with someone is vulnerability but the moment, the period of being with someone, and knowing that at any moment, you may lose all that you have is vulnerability. Knowing that you are at risk of losing what you have is being vulnerable. Knowing that you are in danger and yet perhaps not being able to come out of it is the moment where can feel your vulnerability.
Well, this was in reference to love, a person can feel vulnerable. But it is not the only way in which vulnerability gets shaped. Vulnerability simply means ‘open to injury’, be it literal injury or be its emotional one. Vulnerability is a state of note being in an absolutely safe space.
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The link between insecurity and vulnerability
While insecurity is not the only reason for which vulnerability gets shaped, a major outcome of having insecurities can lead to vulnerability. To cite an example, young girls who are insecure about their bodies often end up finding themselves vulnerable too. IT can shape the form like ‘I am a thick and chubby woman and perhaps will never be someone who could be truly loved’ This can be seen as an example of feeling vulnerable because of the insecurities one has for one body.
How does Vulnerability look like?
1. You fall for almost anyone. Your vulnerability is such that even the slightest piece of kindness and love attracts you.
2. You find it difficult to open up easily, and often hesitate to have anyone’s shoulder to cry on as you don’t want yourself to be a burden on anyone.
3. You have a habit of apologizing a lot because you don’t want to end up being in a loop where you offend someone and happen to lose them. So, you apologize.
4. You highly doubt if you are someone really being liked and hence, you look for strong validation from people around you.
5. You can be as moody as possible as your mood particularly is volatile by others.
6. Because you live in a spell of self-doubts, you let your loved ones control you and make decisions for you. IT is often like they affect you, their happiness affects you, their sadness affects you and what you are is a lot of what they feel for you.
So, let’s discuss what you can do. How can you stop feeling so vulnerable?
1. by disallowing yourself from giving your power to others.
2. by accepting your insecurities, but normalizing being a victim instead of being in a space of being vulnerable
3. by loving yourself instead of craving for love
4. trusting yourself, your instincts, your ideas before anyone else does. Giving yourself the value for what you are is what can make you feel less vulnerable.
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