More Real, Less Judgemental: Meet Diksha Singhi, a body positivity blogger who had found her own reason to lose weight

Diksha Singhi

Finding her own reason to lose weight, here is what Diksha thinks about being @alwaysalittleextra

“The broad chin and the double chin, the loose skin, the dress with a slit exposing my dark knee, stretch marks on my inner thigh, the nose, a tad, bit wide, 41, feet size, Everything is real.” writes Diksha in her post relating love for her, less judgemental self.

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Is FAT The New UGLY? As I watched a rather funny episode of The Big Bang Theory, the character Rajesh makes a remark where he compares regular people to 'Fatties & Uggos'. While I do love the show, it made me take a step back and contemplate as to how being Ugly & Being Fat are always used interchangeably. While what is ugly & what is beautiful is very subjective, it has rather become a universal message that Fat is Ugly and is deep rooted in our daily conversations. Example, If I tell a friend, "I have gained weight". The immediate response would be 'Don't say that, you are not fat, you look so pretty. Even while being sympathetic, it is always almost assumed as though I am saying I am looking bad. But I never intended to say I look ugly. All I was saying was I had gained weight. Period. And it all begins when you are a kid. We have always been told our family (extended family, super extended family) to look up to our friends/siblings who are thinner because they look smarter, prettier. In fact being fat was not even assessment of my weight but also of my characteristics: If you are fat, you are lazy, lousy and a loser. Well Played!But it will be naive of me to point fingers at families alone. I am sure half of us also have convinced ourselves that being fat is synonymous to looking Ugly. Of course, we were made to feel that way. I have been there. This will forever be a chicken and an egg story, unless we begin to break the chain.I don't know how many of you are ready to change the narrative and change how people behave, but if all of us start telling ourselves we are beautiful, it would be a great start. The world will still come at you, but you won’t come at yourself. And that's a pretty good start. #fatnotugly #fatgirlstories #humansofbombay #bodypositivestories #SelfLove #celebratemycurves #celebratemysize #effyourbeautystandards #weightwatchers #beautiful #bodypositiveindia #plussizeindia

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We might excel at many things and we do get credited for that but what happens when our body overturns those credits. The constant fear of being body-shamed is still in the back of our mind.

The constant fear of body shaming still exists. A comment from someone known or maybe some unknown makes us overthink about our body. Staring at the mirror and asking the question, why is my body like this? The same happened with Diksha Singh. Diksha was born in Guwahati, with interest in swimming, excelling at academics, and rejoicing in being a social butterfly. Ye, she confessed that she used to pretend like a tomboy who didn’t desire any romantic relation because if she expresses her desire, she will be fat-shamed. Her schooling was a struggle and the fact that everything used to come down to her obese body was daunting to her.

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The turning point of Diksha’s life, giving her reasons to lose weight

The turning point of Diksha’s life came when she was planning a trip to Uttarakhand with her friends and got to know that she is not eligible for paragliding as she is overweight. This very fact had made her re-evaluate and find out her own reason to lose weight and become fit and healthy. Since then, slamming over all the wrong reasons to lose weight, she has been losing weight in the right manner for the right reasons.

Talking about body positivity, Diksha told her experience of wearing a V Cut Swimwear on her trip to Thailand and posted a picture in that costume. This was the time when she confronted her notions for a perfect body. When asked if she had any fear before posting that picture, she said, “No, I didn’t have any fear at all. In fact, I wanted to address the very idea of how I was a scared person before but not now. Not that I didn’t know that people may post negative comments, but I wanted to have a much-required conversation with those who were posting negatively. Honestly, if there were no negative comments, there wouldn’t have been any need for spreading body positivity in the first place. I wanted to address the negatives and hence, I had no real fear for it.”

The “always a little extra” girl as she names her blog aims at changing how people perceive beauty. She suggests beauty in everybody, loves talking about physical and mental health and creates content around plus size fashion. Talking about the pressure from society, she acknowledged that people impose their ideas of the perfect body, especially on women by sugar coating it with their ideas and concerns for a healthy body. “Not that obesity can’t lead to health-related problems, yet diseases don’t look at you just from a size perspective. You could be thin and your cholesterol level still might be high or you might be diabetic. The mere idea that only fat people are unhealthy is wrong. Being overweight can have its health implications but when random strangers call you an elephant, they are really not concerned about your health. They just sugarcoat their fat-shaming ideas and make it an issue of health.”

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Diksha likes journaling her ideas on her feed, in her captions. The colour of her mood and vibes of her pictures can always be read in the poetic and eloquent captions. She strongly believes all bodies are equal and beautiful and the mere perceptions of society must never define it. When asked about her journey, she said, “I call my journey a conscious process of learning and unlearning. I would not call my journey as a transformation as both of my selves are part of me. I have just grown and learned to bloom rightly.”

“The idea that you are putting your happiness over and above what society expects you to do is important for you to grow and nurture into a better human. What is most important for you is you, to be happy. Embracing self-love. That taking ever conscious steps however difficult it is because it’s good for me and not for anybody else.” Diksha’s journey should be remarked for her understanding of what she needs and when she needs anything, irrespective of what society wants her to be. She finds investing love in herself as one important concept of understanding and loving one’s own body.

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