We are just friends: What does it really means?
“Can boy and girl just be friends?” Most common question in literature, art or any film—a simple one, but based on a rather complicated issue. Why complicated? In both friendship, there is a certain level of competitiveness, whether they admit it or not. Both men and women compete for the opposite sex. There are other things that they compete at such as academics, sports, books, video games and just about everything in general.
No matter if it is a male to male, female-to-female or female to male, in all friendships, there must be a common interest. Without that interest, there is no friendship.
There are a lot of benefits of having a friend of opposite sex. They are for us like our dinner companions, conversation partners, self-esteem boosters, information about the opposite sex, social status and respect.
Although these patterns are the most common, however, it is important to note that either one can experience either situation. Some women may desire no-strings-attached with a friend. Some men may desire a long-term relationship. The important thing to remember is the MISMATCH in goals.
Through these 3 TIPS, you can make your friendship stronger
1.Understand different friendship needs: Desire has no control. When entering into even in a simple friendship your hopes and your friend’s hope cannot be same always. Each person’s goals for the friendship may be unique. Some people want companionship, some want sex, others commitment. To have a friendship of any kind, it is important to respect those differences.
2.Communicate your intentions: Frustration and difficulty start when both individuals are not honest about their goals. For example, a man may claim he desires the only companionship when he really wants a girlfriend. A woman may want hook-up when she really desires to be dined, protected, and dated. So, if you want something specific out of a friendship, it is important to show it.
3.Only stay with fair trades: Sometimes both “friends” are looking to slowly lead to love and commitment. Other times, both are looking for some sexual benefits too. Yet others share only a mutual desire for company, conversation, and mutual support. All of these are good foundations for satisfying opposite-sex friends. But staying up with honesty will never ruin your friendship in future for sure
Are you people dating? Are you just friends? We hear these questions so much in our daily life but nevertheless, a friendship between men and women is not impossible. However, it does require finding someone with friendship goals matching your own. Communicating clearly and leaving when there is no key for the lock.
And yes either we work on it or spoil it we will still be discussing this question for another hundred years – Can a boy and a girl be “JUST FRIENDS”?
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