Extramarital Affair is less about love and more about sliding across boundaries
People go in and out of relationship to find peace, love, care and affection and some level of social, mental and physical satisfaction.
In a relationship like marriage if more than one of the above is missing, it makes the couple vulnerable and a person tries to fill in that gap in his or her by getting close to someone who fulfills that gap. That’s when begins an extra marital.
Here are some reasons why people have an extramarital affair
This is probably one of the most common reasons for people to get involved in an extramarital affair. The major reason why you would decide to form a physical relation outside your marriage is because of sexual dissatisfaction. When you are not getting the desired enjoyment from your wife or husband.
You do not feel urge of getting intimate in bed. This forces an individual to hunt for sexual gratification with another partner. Several studies have indicated that a female tends to move out of her married relationship when there is sexual discontent and her partner cannot satisfy her sexual needs where as the reason why men look out for another women is certainly due to their wish to feel the change and get more excitement with a new partner. Also, when a male is unable to perform well in bed, it is the fear, complex and stigma to face his partner that pushes him to isolate himself, which may or may not lead to an extra marital affair. However, females usually, do not get any inferiority complex if their sexual performance is not up to the mark yet they try to improve their acts and remain close to their husband.
Sometimes a couple get emotionally disconnected from each other, the top reasons being lack of time and lack of communication with each other. To be emotionally connected, you need to share, you need to talk, you need to express, you need to listen, you need to laugh, and you need to care and show that care.
If you don’t do this, over a period of time, chances are you will get emotionally disconnected from each other as a couple and start getting emotionally connected with someone else. What starts out as an emotional bond with someone can eventually lead to an extramarital affair.
3.Need for excitement
Sometimes it is sheer boredom or a need to break the monotony of everyday life that is the reason for an extramarital affair. Just for fun, for a change or for some excitement.
4.No common interest
If you have nothing common in each other, you’ll eventually get absorbed in pursuing your own divergent interests. You will end up not spending enough time together. As you spend time away from each other, you get opportunities to interact with others. And gradually start building a bond with those who share your interests. Many times this leads to an extramarital affair.
People who marry in their early 20s would most likely have achieved some level of stability and social standing by their mid-30s. At that point, they feel that they did not really enjoy life in their 20s, and find it exciting to indulge in an extramarital affair.
- Ways to improve your marriage daily
- Wake up early together
- Kiss instead of peck
- Show affection when out in public
- Shower together
- Communicate about everything
- Say “I love you”
- Play games together