Come Valentine’s Day and where all love birds are immersed in love, there are few who are still single and have their own way of enjoying this day or they take it as just another day! “Valentine, or any day, it’s all the same. It’s just ‘Friday’ for me, and in this industry, people don’t have time for such things!” says Prakash who works in HCL. Shashank, a civil service aspirant who is in his late twenties agrees with Prakash saying,”I can’t see Feb 14 in my calendar, all I can see is IAS Preliminary examination of August.”
Singles celebrate this day as ‘Single Awareness/Appreciation Day’ (S.A.D) which is a humorous holiday celebrated on February 14. On ‘Single Awareness Day’, singles gather to celebrate their single status. Some want to remind romantic couples that they don’t need to be in a relationship to celebrate life.
On this day, many people wear green as it is considered to be the ‘opposite’ of red. Another popular option is an absence of colour (black) to symbolize an absence of celebration.
Singles believe that Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday. It is not about love and relationships: it is about selling flowers, candy and diamond jewellery. Singles consider themselves lucky as they don’t have to participate in that madness and along with it a lot of money is saved.
Romantic tales often suggest that another person can complete you, with common saying such as ‘my better half’, or ‘I was half the person without you.’ For singles, they simply mean co-dependence, loss of independence and losing yourself in another person. After all, do relationships equate with happiness?! As Sometimes it’s important to remember that you are defined by who YOU are, and not who you are dating! “Love the life you’re living and don’t live for love!” says Neha, a DU student.
Lots of bars hold ‘Single Parties’ that gives the chance to celebrate the day as an unattached person. Like ‘Chelsea Favourite’ and ‘Culture Club’ in New York City are few of the cozy nooks to remind singles that they are date-free. Cocktails like ‘Wine for One’ and ‘Who needs two to toast’ are offered. In India, there are no such clubs.
However, Singles here celebrate this day with their friends and family as Valentine for them does not mean love shown only to your partner. As Akash Nigam, who works in Samsung company says,” After office, we all friends are planning for some get together. We don’t need any special day to celebrate, any day spent with friends is special in its own way.”
There are few who are single may be because they haven’t met their dream partners yet but again, there are some who just want to be single at least till their marriages are fixed. As Neeraj Dangi, a DU student says,” I want to be single because couples are good on face but gossip about their partners on back or among their friends. So, it’s better to be alone.” Prashant Sharma, a Delhi resident added,” I guess, We boys prefer being single only because girls exploit our money and mind both,” he said with a wink.
So, people irrespective of their age or career nowadays preferring more to be alone than in a committed relationship. And, it is not due to their circumstances alone, but instead enjoying it!
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