What is the right time to have sex in your relationship?
In a healthy relationship, both partners are able to freely express their views and respect each other’s boundaries about sex. One should not have sex just to keep his or her partner happy but it’s all about enjoying the moment. We need to think and talk in terms of ‘Responsible Sex’ – being ‘response able’. You may feel comfortable kissing or holding hands but not want to go any further. That’s completely okay! It’s all up to you whether you want to have sex or not. The decision should always be in your hands. You should only have sex when you will feel that you are ready for it. If you are in a healthy relationship, your partner should respect your decision, whether they like it or not.
If you are making up your mind about when to have sex, you should keep these things in your mind:-
- Always feel comfortable to take your own decision.
- Talk with your partner about sex practices.
- Be honest with yourself and partner too, if you’re not ready for having sex, that’s fine and your partner should respect your decision.
- If anything bothers you or makes you feel uncomfortable, no matter how long you have been with someone or how many times you have done something with him, you have the right to say no at any time for any reason.
- You have the right to talk honestly about your fears and be comfortable to talk about worries and feelings.
- If your partner threatens and pressurize you to have sex mentally or physically, it will lead an unhealthy relationship and it also could be a sign of abuse.
- You have the control of your own body, and no one else has the right to tell you what to do with it. It’s ‘Your body and Your Choice’.
Why ‘sex’ is so complicated?
Being physical with your partner can raise the intensity of emotions that people feel for each other. So, it’s really important that you should be ready for having sex. Even if you are in a healthy relationship and would like to have sex with your partner, some beliefs or expectations might make this decision more complicated. You both are different people with the different opinions and he might have different ideas about what type of sexual activity he wants.
Break the Boundaries:-
Break boundaries and break stereotypes. It’s not the responsibility of a guy to make the first move, girls can as well do it. If you strongly feel for someone and you want to take your relationship to the next level, there is no harm in expressing your feelings. Society stereotypes can make it harder for everyone to be honest about what they really want and can also make them feel self-conscious.
A relationship will be real and stronger when the both of the people can truly be themselves as they are in reality both inside and outside of the bedroom. When we question these “rules and regulation,” we respect our partner for who they are instead of who they “should be.”
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