Let’s redefine Friendship. What does it really mean to be a good friend?
Every relationship stands equally important for us. But friends that we make in different phases of life always hold a special place in our hearts. Isn’t it? We all have that one good friend to whom we can share everything kind of “Chuddy-buddy” friends. Having good friends is really important for our happiness. But the appalling reality is, we hardly find good friends. This world is full of toxic people. Yes, these type of people will act like your friends but in reality they will only ruin your life. So, it is very important to know about good friends who just make you feel special with their unconditional love.
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Why good friends are so important?
Good friends are always remembered. They are pretty important part of our lives. But question arises why they are so important for us? A lot of research has been done looking into the benefits of friendship, and the research has found exactly what you might expect. Results shows that better quality relationships you have; the more likely you are to be happy. Therefore, it is good for your happiness to be a great friend to someone and to have a group of good friends supporting you. Here, we are not talking about how you can get good friends in fact you yourself should be a good friend to others. Support them whenever they require.
Unstated signs of a good friend
To be a good friend, firstly become a good person. There are some signs of good friend that you should know. Friends will come and go in your life, but more important than how long a friendship lasts, is that a good friend will love you for who you are. The way you can tell the sign of a good friend is by looking at the actions they take –big and small – that show they care.
Here, are some unstated signs of “good friend”:
1. Someone who will support you whenever you require that support.
2. The one who can be trusted and who won’t judge you.
3. Someone who won’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings, in fact they respect you and your feelings too.
4. Someone who is kind and has respect for you. Never be a friend to someone who never respects you
5. Someone who will love you because they choose to, not because they feel like they should.
6. Someone whose company you enjoy showing loyalty, being trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard.
7. Most importantly someone who stood beside you even in your difficult times. That is the real test for a good friend.
Try to bring smile on everyone’s face is a real sign of a true friend. If you want to do all or many of the things listed above for someone you care about, you are already a good friend. In order to be a good friend here are few things you should adopt immediately.
1 Listen: Listen to buddies patiently. Try to understand what they want to say. Listening is so important not to underestimate, but it can be hard to do. The best way to listen is to try and understand the situation from your friend’s point of view. If you aim to do this, you will naturally find yourself beginning to ask the right sort of questions and they will appreciate having someone who really cares about how they feel and what they are going through. Take their advice and give your advice too. Don’t dominate others because it can actually spoil your friendship.
2. Ask them what they need. Be sensitive with those you actually care for. If you are worried about someone and you want to be there for them, just ask them what they need- that way you know what they find helpful during tough times, and you can be there in a way that’s most useful to them.
3. Get physical. Sometimes a warm hug is a solution to entire problem. Smiles and hugs are a great way to show friends that they are not alone, that you are there for them, and that they are important. So, be warm to them. Provide them lots of hugs and kisses.
4. Keep in touch. Even if you guys are not nearby each other, making an effort to keep in touch through facebook, emails, texts and calls will show your friend you are there for them. Don’t cut-off. Try to be in touch despite of the fact that you are really busy in your own lives.
5. Tell them how you feel. Never hide your feelings. You do not have to make a big deal of it all the time but sometimes there are moments where letting someone know that they are important to you through something you say, can make a big difference to how someone is feeling. Telling someone that they means a lot to you make your bond stronger.
6. Get the facts. If your friend has a medical condition, or a mental health issue, a good way to offer support is to learn about what they have been diagnosed with. During this time provide them support they need. Taking an interest in what they are going through shows that you care, and that you are planning to stick around no matter what’s going on.
7. Be willing to make a tough call. If you think the safety of your friend is at risk, you might need to act without their consent and get help (see the sidebar for where you can seek help). It can be really difficult particularly when you are worried about their reaction, but remember that you are acting because you care and you do not want them to be hurt.